Patriarchy and misogyny, for ages, have dominated Indian traditions and customs. But a few are trying to break the norms and set a new path of equality.
In Jaipur, a BSF constable refused to accept Rs 11 lakh cash as dowry at his wedding. The constable, instead accepted Rs 11 and a coconut from the bride’s parents as a token.
Setting an example against the evil custom of dowry, BSF constable Jitendra Singh clearly denied the cash being offered to him at the wedding. Initially, the bride’s parents were shocked as they thought the baraatis (wedding guests) were unhappy with some of their arrangements, however everyone had tears of joy after seeing the gesture by the bridegroom.
Jitendra got married to Chanchal Shekawat in the city on Saturday.
“I was shocked and initially thought either the family of the bridegroom wanted more money or they were unhappy with the arrangements. Later, we realized that he and his family were totally against the money being offered to them,” 59-year-old Govind Singh Shekhawat, father of Chanchal Shekhawat, the bride, told The Times of India.
When contacted, Jitendra Singh who is posted in Chattisgarh said, “The day I was told that my wife-to-be had done LLB and LLM and is also pursuing a PhD, I thought she is good enough for me and my family. That day, I made up my mind to not take any dowry and my family thought we will declare this decision to my in-laws on the wedding day itself.”
Chanchal is preparing for Rajasthan Judicial Services (RJS). Jitendra said that if she becomes a magistrate, that would be more valuable to his family than money.
Rajendra Singh, the bridegroom’s father, told TOI, “She is well-educated and thus we will further facilitate her in her higher studies.”
People like Jitendra are setting a progressive example for the society. We need more people like Jitendra around us.