In India, caste and religion play an important role in marriage, as most parents try finding a partner from their own community for their child. Bypassing this societal norm, Sachin Asha Subhash and Sharvari Surekha Arun decided to get hitched in a caste-less marriage and has replaced usual rituals and vows with their own beliefs of helping the society and tied the knot on January 26, 2019.
A different kind of wedding
Sachin Asha Subhash and Sharvari Surekha Arun tied the knot on Republic Day by following the Satyashodhak way, a concept coined by Mahatma Jyotirao Phule where a marriage takes place without a priest and the usual rituals.
The couple did not look for an auspicious time to get married by consulting some pujari, but instead decided the date to be January 26, out of importance of the day for our country. They both are social workers in Maharashtra and met each other about two years ago while involved in some social work and instantly hit it off. They decided to get hitched in a caste-less marriage.
Donated books to build libraries
Sachin Asha Subhash in an interview said, “Our wedding was simple, we did not even print wedding invitation cards as we made use of technology and sent it to all our friends and families over social media.” The two wish to set-up a library in their respective villages and have requested their guests to gift books in their marriage. He said, “We hosted around 1000 people at our wedding and received over 1200 books. The books, which ranged across genres are going to be donated to libraries in villages.”
In order to eliminate the possibilities of caste-based prejudices, the couple hid their last names from their families. Sachin said, “Both my wife and I have wished to keep our last names private and have not informed our families about it.”
Marriage based on Constitution
Talking about the rituals, Sharvari said, “We have changed the rituals and do not believe in ‘Kanyadan’ as we feel that daughters are not the properties and words like Dan (donation) should not be used. We have also finalised seven vows, rather principles in life, which will replace the Saptapadi ritual.”
Changing the rituals in marriage and reforming them as per their beliefs, they believe that their marriage is based on the Constitution of India. Sharing seven vows, the couple will tie the knot on the basis of seven principles like truth, love, non-violence, hard-work, development, conscience and good will towards fellow humans.
Even there Kundali was a modern one. Talking about the same, Subhash said, We made our own modern Kundali where we decided that ideas like educational qualifications, earnings and other traits should match instead of the age-old superstitious beliefs.”
The couple gave a book which contains details of their unique wedding authored by Sharvari to the guests as a return gift.
The marriage ceremony was held at Rashtra Seva Dal auditorium in Pune where prominent social workers from across Maharashtra were present. A close friend took over the wedding announcements. Both Subhash and Sharvari run two separate NGO’S in Maharashtra. We applaud the couple for setting an example for others.