Did You Know Love Marriages & Live-In Relationships Were Totally Cool In Ancient India?

Did You Know Love Marriages & Live-In Relationships Were Totally Cool In Ancient India?

Well the trend of being in love and then’ live-in’ is now days trending in India but still not confessed upright in front of elders . On the other hand crimes like like honor killings, bride/groom kidnappings, child marriages, etc happens in the name of the orthodox traditions.

But likewise today , our ancestors were not against the marriages or being in love.

Talking today ,about the Gandharva Marriage:

According to ancient Hindu scriptures, there’s a kind of marriage where the girl selects her own husband. They meet each other of their own accord, consensually agree to live together, and their relationship is consummated in copulation born of passion which means they became sexually active with each other. This form of marriage did not require consent of parents or anyone else. According to Vedic records, this is one of earliest and common form of marriage in Rig vedic times. 

If you google for ‘Gandharva Marriage’ on the Internet, you might come across this – 

In Rig vedic opinions and classical literature, the commonly described marriage method was Gandharva, where the bride and the groom had met each other in their ordinary village life, or in various other places such as regional festivals and fairs, begun to enjoy one another’s company, and decided to be together. This free choice and mutual attraction were generally approved by their kinsmen. A passage in the Atharvaveda suggests that parents usually left the daughter free in selection of her lover and directly encouraged her in being forward in love-affairs. The mother of the girl thought of the time when the daughter’s developed youth (Pativedanam, post puberty), that she would win a husband for herself, it was a smooth and happy sort of affair with nothing scandalous and unnatural about it.

In western culture it is known ‘common law marriage’, where the couple lives together for a certain amount of time before society considers them married. There are no religious vows involved – it’s all about free will and consent.

Even in the Mahabharat, Bheem and Hidimbaa’s coupling was considered acceptable under the tenets of Gandharva marriage. Rishi Kanva, the foster-father of Shakuntala,quoted about Gandharva Marriage in such a way:

The marriage of a desiring woman with a desiring man, without religious ceremonies, is the best marriage.

When this is the concept of ancient times ,then why do people in today’s scenario ,have so many objections for Love Marriage or Live in relationship.?What do you feel in this context you an exchange your thoughts too.


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