Single is so last season. The new and improved way to refer to your unattached self is, self-partnered. And it feels so much better to say. We can’t take the credit—Emma Watson coined the term. The outspoken actress and feminist reflected on her 30 years on this earth (she hits the big 3-0 in April 2020) in a new interview with Vogue UK, and in it revealed that she isn’t single….she’s self-partnered—there’s a difference. And when you embrace that difference, going solo can become much more fulfilling.
But Watson didn’t see that until recently. “I never believed the whole ‘I’m happy single’ spiel,” she said.
We get that; just the word single implies something is missing…like, where’s my other half? We’ve all rolled our eyes at that friend who declares they’re happier than they’ve ever been now that they’re single—although we’re thrilled for them if that’s true, with the societal pressures to physically partner up, it’s hard to believe.
The past year has been “tough” for the Harry Potter star, believe it or not, despite the incredible roles and using the platform she’s been given for good causes like equality.
And it’s because being a single woman turning 30 sucks thanks to the decades-long exposure to totally unrealistic ideals and norms. And while we’re finally feeling the freedom to let go of those skewed standards, it’s going to take a long time to undo the damage those messages have done since they were branded into our brains as little girls. Like many women, Watson “had all these ideas” about what her life was supposed to look like at this age.
Then she ditched “single” and partnered up. But it’s who she partnered up with that made all the difference.
It’s sort of like that whole, you have to learn to love yourself before anyone else will theory, but in less intimidating packaging. Self-partnering is basically fostering the most important relationship in your life—the one you have with yourself.
One of the big reasons we put such an emphasis on finding a permanent companion is for the security partnership provides, whether it’s health insurance or a shoulder to lean on. But self-partnering entails that you’ve found a way to be your own safe place, whether that means finding fulfillment and stability in your career or learning how to comfort yourself.
Many people took to social media to share their thoughts on Watson saying she’s “self-partnered.”
Emma has become a role model for embracing life based not on where you’re at and who you’re with. It’s what you’re about as opposed to who you’re with. Most importantly, this new term “promotes self-esteem and self-worth.”