All of us believe in the age-old adage of ‘live and let live’. But when it comes to women wearing dresses and shorts, sometimes, we forget this basic tenet. Indian women face harassment and moral policing not just from men but from other women as well.
Moral policing seems to be a hobby for a lot of people, who seemingly have nothing better to do than to poke their nose in matters that do not concern them.
A 28 year old woman in Bengaluru was riding pillion on a bike with her friend, wearing a casual t-shirt and shorts, when she was not only stopped but also harassed by a stranger who asked her to dress‘appropriately’.
The incident was captured on video by her friend which took place on October 3 in Bengaluru’s HSR layout area. The woman revealed,
“I heard someone yelling. I was riding pillion and I looked to my right side. There was a man on a two-wheeler, who began yelling at me and said, ‘Don’t you have any clothes at home?’ When I asked him what his problem is, he began yelling at me, saying that Indian women must not wear ‘such’ clothes. I was wearing shorts and T-shirt. I don’t see what the problem is.”
In the video where the man is wearing a shirt and pant (when did that become an Indian dress code by the way?) saying that the girl should follow the Indian and Hindu ‘dress code’ -whatever that is. The angry friend tells the man that no clause of the constitution dictates how a person should dress.
Now a man, himself dressed in Western clothes, TALKING IN ENGLISH is talking about INDIAN HINDU code and rules. Do I really need to point out the irony here?
After the recording went viral on social media, netizens condemned the man’s act for questioning the lady.
The man stopped commenting when the lady said she would approach the police to lodge a complaint about ‘vocally harassing’ her on the street.
Talking about why she didn’t file a complaint the woman said, “Even the police have the same mindset. If I went to them, they would probably ask me to wear other clothes too, so I did not file a complaint. ” That says a lot doesn’t it?
It seems that some men believe they can dictate the lives of women and employing religion just makes their argument stronger; not only is that problematic and extremely misguided. Might I suggest something for such people? Please go and read the constitution.